The Indian Homemaker had polled on her blog about the definitions for Joru ka Gulam; what would you describe as the ideal henpicked husband. Check out the list of responses. There’s even a poll going on!

He has a feminine side to his personality; he is androgynous in many ways.
He hates dowry and can boycott his family and friends and revolt against the society that demands/promotes dowry. He prefers a simple marriage ceremony and does not want to torture the bride’s family by bringing a huge baraat and following other decadent customs of marriage.
He touches his wife’s feet in return when/if she touches his feet on the wedding night. He talks to her all night and is not dying to deflower her like the traditional Indian male.

Ahh the joy :)